What is Happiness?
“Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like & celebrating it for everything that it is.” -Mandy Hale
“You will be exactly as happy as you decide to be.”
“Happiness is a way of mind. It’s just according to the way you look at things.” -Walt Disney
Our society has defined this word in many different areas. It can be linked to a stage of life, a feeling or a mentality. This makes sense to us.
But what doesn’t make sense is where society has told us to find that happiness.
I’ve recently realized that, in my life in particular, I find my happiness in the people I love. My family, my cousins and my friends.
I love to entertain them. I love to feed them. And when Christmas comes around, I get so excited to give them presents that I almost spill the secret. Every time.
But what do I really enjoy? Making those people proud.
My favorite five words in the human language are, “I’m so proud of you.” And when those words come from my Dad or my Grandpa – I can’t even think about it without crying.
That’s good and all, but what that really means is that I’m looking for my happiness in someone else’s opinion of me.
Why do I do this?
Well, it probably has to do with the way I’m wired – which isn’t going to change unless God does a miracle of sorts. And it’s good that I love to make people happy. But what happens when they’re not impressed with me?
To some extent, we all want to impress those around us. That can be dangerous, though. There are certain decisions we need to make for ourselves.
Now, don’t get me wrong, life is not supposed to be all rainbows and butterflies. I’m a firm believer in growing through the hard times. I think the most valuable lessons come from being uncomfortable.
But if we’re looking to find happiness in someone else, we’re never going to find it. Although we all want everyone to think of us in a positive way, sometimes that can’t happen. You can’t please everyone, Maddie.
Because of this, I really want to try to be happy with what I’m doing – not worrying about what others think. This is usually pretty easy for me, but I have my moments just like everyone else. There are times I just want to make my friends happy, so I don’t say what I’m actually thinking. Or, although I hate to admit it, there are times I think I need to act a certain way to impress that certain guy.
But, the reality is, everyone’s going to have their opinions of you. And, most of the time, there’s nothing you can do about it.
“You can be the ripest, juciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Teese
So go ahead, say what you want to say. Be who you want to be. The only opinion that truly matters is that of yourself.
Define your own happiness.